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Drug preguntas
Sep 29
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Find a group of people who make you feel safe and accepted.
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Realize that it is not acceptable to be angry all the time. You need to learn how to control your anger or you'll end up worse than what you think you'll end up like while you're angry.
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Think about who you hurt when you're angry. Yourself, those who care about you, and potentially the person you're frustrated with.
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Think about someone who has been short tempered with you at some time in your life – a family member, a schoolmate, or anyone else. It's never pleasant to have somebody upset or angry with you. Try to understand that the other person is probablynot trying to tick you off. They may be trying to tell you that you have done something unacceptable. Or sometimes, they are just plain envious.
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Examine your feelings. What did that person do? What do you feel must be done to "fix" the situation so you can feel better? Walking away, telling who's annoying you that they're upsetting or bothering you, changing the subject or ignoring whatever is upsetting you can all help.
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Do not take your anger out on other people or yourself. If you really feel the need to express your anger physically, punch your pillow or something like that.
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Seek help if necessary. If you cannot get past your anger and you start to plan on what you can do to get even, this is a warning signal that your problem is getting bigger than you.
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Read a book. Pick up a classic from your local library and realize the potential for human thought and intellect.
Sep 29
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Tell the people around you. By telling the people around you that you have decided to be a woman will help you accept it yourself if they can't accept you for how you are them they are not the sort of people you want around you.
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Meet other people such as yourself If you meet people like yourself who want to become woman then you can all help each other accept who you are.
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Make the change If you are 100% sure that you want to become a woman then maybe now it is time to to the next step and have the sex change that you desire but if you are having any doubts what so ever i would advise that you do not do as you may regret it in the future.
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Realise that it's OK to feel this way. Although it isn't a common thing, it doesn't mean you are a freak. It's important for you to accept who you are, before anyone else can.
Sep 29
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Think about why you are miserable now, and what's making you long to be back in the past. There could be many typical ( or random ) reasons why you may feel this way. Did someone bully you? It may be the whole new workload that high school is giving you, or the fact that you are you missing your old friends. Or it may simply be the major change you're experiencing as a teenager. You must discover the reasons for your sadness. Write the reason(s) down on a list.
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If you really don't know what is getting you down then, fill a diary with your current thoughts and feelings every week or so. When looking back upon diary entries, people are usually surprised by what they thought during the time!
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Accept your present situation. There's no point wishing that you could be in playgroup or kinder again, when you know it's impossible. Life will always involve some work from now on, because you are on your way to being an adult.
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Look through the list you created. Decide upon which complaints are realistic, and which ones are unachievable. For example, if you wrote "I'm sad because I want to be 3 again so I don't have school and can watch 'The Wiggles' all day," -get over it! A whim like that is totally unachievable and will never happen again. However if you wrote "I'm sad because I wish to be 7 again, because then I had friends but now I don't.", that's actually reasonable, because something can be done about it.
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Ditch all those impossible whims from the list, it's a total waste of time mourning over it. Attempt to make the possible ones real. So try to make more friends, try to have more fun, play chasey once in while, laugh a lot, watch funny movies, etc.
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Get moving! Try to make your teen years the happiest, they can be, because you only get 7 years. Have fun!
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If you are sad because you are away from home(for kids studying abroad), it can be really difficult. But read, or study, or socialize, and somehow try to make yourself forget about the situation.
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Find out if there is anything you can do. Why are you feeling nostalgic? If you are missing old friends, then contact them by telephone or e-mail and arrange to meet up. If you miss an old school/childhood, it may help to wander around the school once more and maybe say hello to familiar faces if it helps.
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Stick with people who are friendly and can help you. If you are still with some people who were with you during the times you now long for, talk it over with them. They might be feeling the same way. Talking it over certainly helps.
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Give your nostalgia a chance. Nostalgia is not a bad thing: it's just your mind suddenly remembering a certain period in time. When you have the time, listen to a song which makes you nostalgic to relieve yourself and to remove the pressure.
Sep 28
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Ask the teacher for permission to leave the classroom. It is best to ask to go to the bathroom, because he or she will assume you have to.
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Go to the bathroom if you really must. If you don't have to, just walk around the school a few times, particularly near a quiet place such as the auditorium or the choir room. Take a drink if you need one.
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Run a few laps or shoot a few hoops in the gym if it's really bad. Most phys ed teachers won't care and they'll be happy if you got some exercise. Also, you might get extra credit from the gym teacher.
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Get your CD player or iPod and listen to a few songs before you go back to class.
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Return to class relaxed and ready to move on with the day. Also, if you spent more than 5 minutes outside of the classroom, tell her that you really had to use the bathroom, or that you felt a little nauseous (queasy, sick) and had to sit down for a time to recover. Also, tell her you had a stomach ache so it took a while. (She'll know what you're talking about.)
- If things are so bad that all you want to do is go home, ask to call your parents and get someone to come and collect you. If this isn't possible, try to go and lie down in the sick bay for a short while; at least it will give you quiet rest and some time to think over things. Go outside and take a deep breath of fresh air
- Try to talk to your parents, your relatives, or someone you trust about your stress problems and they'll understand and give you advice.
- See the student nurse or counselor if you feel really rotten and alone. At least they can cover your absence for you with an explanation and may give you some time to talk things through.
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Sep 28
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It is good to talk to people about it, especially an adult who has gone through the same experience as you or your parents. If you are scared to tell anyone for fear of being placed in CPS care, don't be. It's sometimes better for parents to hit rock bottom, then maybe get better, rather than you having bad role models in an unstable or abusive home. Getting taken by CPS may seem worse than living with your parent, but in the long run, for your health and theirs, it's sometimes much better.
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Do not, under any circumstances, blame yourself as it is not your fault your parents are addicts . Addiction is a very harsh thing that consumes your very soul, and when you're addicted to something it's extremely hard to think about or want anything other than what your addicted to. If you've tried your best to help, but always end up being hurt or ignored, it's not your fault. Not that your efforts aren't nice or anything. It's just the only thing that can help an addict is for them to want help for themselves and admit they have a problem they cant control. Usually they have to hit rock bottom before they will admit they have a problem and finally take action. Nothing you could have ever done made them start doing drugs and you must never blame yourself.
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Learn from mistakes made by yourself and your parents. Remember each time they hurt you, how it made you feel abandoned and neglected. Remember the pain, and promise yourself that you'll never make your children, or anyone else for that matter, feel the same way. It will be hard to do, considering you've grown up around drugs or alcohol addiction, but if you remember the pain it will teach you a lesson you don't have to repeat.
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Find others with the same story. It's important to have people to talk to about what's happening in your life and this is really important. If you feel uncomfortable talking with someone you know personally, then here are some hotline phone numbers, and websites to help you out.
- 24houraddictionhelp.org/DrugAbuse
- ChildHelp USA National Child Abuse Hotline: 800-4-A-CHILD (422.4453)
- National Youth Crisis Hotline 1-800-448-4663
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Article From South Africa. An important note to mention , is that you are not on your own. There are many facilities and resources that are available to you.
Sep 28
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Tell someone that you trust! It's harder to fight this battle alone. Have the courage to reach out to someone for help – a teacher, relative, friend's parent, or anyone that you know you can trust. Even if it's just a friend who can't do anything to help change the situation, it's important to let someone know that you're being abused. They can give you moral support, help you get away from your parents, or act as a witness if your parents deny that they ever abused you.
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Try to do what you can to prevent/avoid the abuse, or at the least some of the biggest attacks. Try to recognize the 'triggers' (things said or done) that really set your parents off. If you recognize them it will be easier to avoid doing them to somewhat lessen the frequency of the abuse. Also, find safe places in your house. Try to avoid the areas where you are abused the most. Find areas (such as your bedroom) that act as safe havens. If you're abused everywhere, find another place to hang, get stuff done, and spend your time, such as at a library or a friend's house. If your parents allow you to go to friend's houses, go to your friend's houses after school as frequently as you can. Not only can you get support from your friends at this time, but you're also away from your parents.
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Bite your tongue. When you are stuck being bombarded with the abuse don't harass your parents no matter how much you want to get up in their faces and give them a taste of their own medicine. Trying to talk and reason with them might work, but being mean back will not help and will most likely make it worse.
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Tell your parents how you feel. Go to your parents at an appropriate time; when they're not busy and they're in a good mood. You may also want to to to a neutral/public setting such as a restaurant. Calmly tell them how sad it makes you when they put you down constantly. It will make the conversation more grown-up because you have stated your problem clearly and calmly. You might want to have everything you want to say written down, or have it practiced beforehand so you can keep your cool if they try to provoke you or get off-topic. Keep in mind that you are also setting yourself up for the possibility of more abuse from your parents if they're not at a point where they can reason and talk things out to make the family situation better.
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Try to move on in a positive way. If you are able to have a good conversation with them, and they listen to your concerns in the future, you will hopefully feel relieved and know that you have accomplished something good. From here, you and your parents can hope to move forward with your lives. If you aren't able to have a good conversation or move forward with your parents, remember that you tried. You made an effort and gave your parents a chance to work with you.
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Get some help from a school guidance counsellor or a therapist. The earlier you seek counseling the better. Over time, the emotional abuse will only get worse as you grow older and your parents start to lose control over you. This can change who you are as an adult and how you view others. The fact that they feel they've done nothing wrong can make even the strongest person, over time, feel unloved and as though they are at fault.
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Get away from the abuse. The sad reality is that most abusive parents stay abusive – there's nothing you can do to stop their behaviour. If this is the case, and they are not willing to work on changing, think long and hard about ways to get out of the situation and away from the abuse. If you can get away from your parents and stay with a sympathetic relative, DO IT. If you have a great friend that you can stay with, DO IT. Save up some money, and make yourself a plan of where to go to keep yourself safe (physically and emotionally). Consider applying for boarding school or school away from home if you have the money, or applying for grants (financial scholarships) if you don't. Basically, if the abuse doesn't stop, get out of that house!
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Have the moral courage to tell yourself that while some families are functional, yours is clearly not, and never will be. Trust your own judgement. Abusers will break your will to the point that you feel guilty about thinking for yourself. The worst abusers will make everything about you subject to their approval. They see your individuality as a threat, and will undermine it, if not destroy it, every chance they get.
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Don't cry until you're sure that your parent(s) cannot see nor hear you. Some abusive parents actually aim to make you cry and when you do, they'll think they've won and will continue to attack you in that same soft spot. Like parasites and cowards, they feed on your weaknesses and inspirations. If you have a sibling who you know can comfort you and back you up, go right to them and share your feelings. Most of the time they agree, but some of the time it's just you that the parent(s) are aggressive towards (scapegoating).
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Call the police if you can't take it anymore.
Sep 28
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Be Positive. It means that you have to train yourself to be optimistic. For example, when your father promised to bring you to England but in the end he could not because of work, you should look at the bright side (you could tell yourself that staying at home meant that you have time to catch up on your homework).
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Do things you like when you are disappointed. For example, if you like to sing, sing when you are disappointed, really concentrate on the lyrics to distract yourself.
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Laugh Watch a funny movie or whatever will guarantee you can laugh.. You can easily distract yourself by laughing.
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Throw a Party If you are the party type, organize a party. That would definitely put your mind off as you would focus a lot on organizing a great party and having fun in your very own party.
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Express your disappointment healthily. You would feel better after expressing your feelings (healthily). You could write on your diary, write a song, write a poem or make a vlog or do karate kicks or scream in your pillow etc.
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Call your friends. You could chat with your friend for hours to distract yourself.
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Ask your friends to come over You could ask your friend to come over to do some studying together, or just hang out (read magazines together, paint each others nails, play video games together etc.) That could keep your mind occupied.
Sep 28
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Keep plenty pictures of your parent. Pictures can help us to remember people, and to share these special people with others.
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Remember that he/she is away serving the country and helping out. Many people, especially since the personnel surge in Iraq and Afghanistan, don't understand deployment. Many uninformed people believe that our soldiers are being cruelly used. While this may be so in a few cases, the majority of military men and women are proud of what they do. Don't EVER let these people make you ashamed. You are part of the greatest organization in the world, the United States Armed Forces!
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Keep in touch Some ships are at sea for as long as a year, so it can be tough. Catch up on things as much as possible. In this day and age, keeping in touch is easier than ever. Try setting up two free Yahoo or AOL Instant Message screen names for you and your parent to use while they are deployed. If you have the capability, you can use webcams to set up a conference with your parents every few days. Use your phone too. In many cases, family members of a deployed soldier are given calling cards, so use those. Finally, don't rule out good old fashioned snail mail. Send letters with comics of your daily life, pictures, ticket stubs, you name it! Every month or so, send a big box with cookies, new DVDs, board and card games, more pictures, cards, letters and anything else you can think of.
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Stay Busy. Try to do as many fun things as you can while your parent is away. This is especially crucial in the summer months, as the absence of school makes it easy to stay home and drown in your sadness.
Sep 28
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Be accepting of the pain. The loss of your dad can easily take away your emotions and impact on who you feel you are. You won't feel the same after this loss and it is important to accept that this is a normal state.
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Talk to others. Speak with family and friends as openly as possible. They know you are going through a really difficult time and it is important to share your emotions, your ups and downs and your fears with others. Remember that your inner circle of family members are probably experiencing similar emotions and maybe you can help one another through this devastating time. However, if you don't feel comfortable talking with family members or you feel that their own pain has locked them away from you so intensely, you should feel free to talk to your peers and people who can help at school such as counselors or a doctor. If you would prefer a more private setting try blogging or chatting online. It is best not to bottle it up inside; while you can still keep deep emotions and reflections to yourself, talking to some extent is vital to keep you connected with humanity and feeling the power of supportive friendships.
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Talk to your mother. Many young people feel an overwhelming need to protect their mother from pain. Yes, she will be suffering intensely but she needs you and you need her. Remember that your reluctance to speak with her may be interpreted by her as a need for her to avoid upsetting you by talking too much about the loss. As such, this can turn into a vicious cycle of both of you trying to protect one another and neither one of you actually opening up and actively talking through what has happened and sharing your pain. Acknowledge it first if your mother cannot and tell her that you do need to talk to her about your feelings of loss. Also tell her that you want to discuss how you love her and how you still love your dad and that you want to keep the memories intact as a family effort. In this way, you can try and help avoid joint isolation in grief.
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Seek professional help. It is really important to seek counseling if you are having feelings of depression and an inability to cope with your loss. It will not improve things for you if you allow yourself to be swept under by powerful negative emotions.
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Allow yourself to cry. It is going to be hard and crying is a normal outlet. If you feel that you need to maintain a brave face in front o fothers, cry in your own personal space, whenever the urge takes you. But realize also, that there is no losing face or shame in crying in front of anybody during a time like this. Everybody can imagine how terrible it must be to lose a father and they will be supportive.
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Talk about who your dad was. Remember the good things about your dad and look at photos of him. Put together a memory album and write down all the wonderful things you have experienced together. Other ideas include making a collage, writing letters to your dad and saving them or disposing of them in a symbolic fashion and making a DVD of times spent together.
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Integrate the loss into your life. Over time your grief will change in the way that it is expressed. Few people ever truly "get over" the loss of a close loved one but most people find a special place in their heart that guards the memory and essence of the lost person for life. Accept that you will faced with the heartache of the loss of your father time and time again through life, especially on occasions where you would have expected your father to be standing by your side, such as graduations, sports events, a wedding etc. You will also lack the advice on finances, planning, socializing etc. that a father would have provided you. Accept these realities and do your own planning and find mentors who are supportive, caring and capable of assisting you in these ways.
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Know that you will always be your dad's child. He may have died but you still continue to have a relationship with him. You will always be his child and he will always live on in your heart. Others will know the person he was through you; so treasure the memories and be ready to share them with others as time moves on.
Sep 28
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Find an activity you can take part in that is outside of school, but non-competitive, like rec league soccer or BMX or dirt biking. Adrenaline-inducing activities might get you through tough periods because when your are on a track on a dirt bike, or screaming down a trail on a mountain bike, your mind loses focus and you think about anything else besides what is right in front of you,because if you don't you will fall. (and hard.) So it forces you to temporarily block out all the stress and problems that bug you and focus on the here and now.
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Look for group activities to do with friends outside of school. Maybe you all meet at a burger place and then walk to the movies together. Things like that help build essential social skills.
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Go to local events that interest you that you might be able to meet people with like-minded interests. Sometimes it can be hard to make friends at school. If you like to bike, go to a bike swap, maybe you can meet someone to ride with.
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