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Sep 30
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Concentrate on the process of 'feeling your feelings'. We all want to have the ‘good’ feelings – happy, upbeat, and confident. We resist feeling sadness, anger, and other ‘bad’ feelings. Our natural, clear state of consciousness is peace, bliss, and gratitude – some very ‘good’ feelings.
- Suppressing feelings is trying to be happy but it just doesn’t work. When we refuse to feel emotions that come up then we are not free in life.
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Choose freedom. This is an important component of happiness. In order to be free, it's important to grapple with the arguments the mind might be giving to persuade you not to feel your emotions:
- You feel that, if you let the emotion in, it will hurt – and it does. But it also hurts to walk around all day clenching. You don’t avoid hurt by stuffing feelings down; it’s just a different pain.
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Let your feelings grow. If you let the emotion in, it will grow. We have all experienced letting in a feeling and then it brings in its younger brother and cousin and so on. We can be afraid the line won’t end and there won’t be room for us! That won’t happen. It is true that as you change your approach to feelings from “go away” to “okay, I am listening” there will be a lot more showing up. But you won’t be consumed by it and at any point you can call a time out and come back to it later.
- We feel emotions to some extent and then suppress them (i.e., call a timeout), and then later, sometimes in the middle of the night in a cold sweat, we revisit them. We might as well make this process conscious rather than random.
- Suppressing emotions is working great – The ego or “I Know Mind” wants to keep its job so it reminds of us of how well it is protecting us. We may have hired it back in first grade but it is time for an honest performance evaluation. This suppression strategy has its demerits.
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Understand that when you resist an emotion, it takes energy. Sadness, fear, anger and upset are going to come up in life and when you resist them you are resisting “what is.” The effort you expend fighting what is, is energy that you don’t have for living life. Your ability to relax, breathe and be present in the moment is diminished by that part of yourself that is holding the lid down so that pesky feeling won’t get out.
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Realize that you suffer a loss by avoiding feelings. Missing out on life is a big price to pay to avoid a feeling. Practice noticing when you resist a feeling and how it feels as you try to show up in the world in a way different from how you are feeling.
Sep 30
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Look in the mirror. Take a deep breath, and imagine yourself standing with your toes in an ocean. The waves come up over you, but you stand your ground, you hold your place in time. You are your own strength, and you must feel this. Think of yourself as this energy, a powerful being against realities harms. When you do so, it grows a sense of importance in you, not arrogance, but importance. With this simple practice, you will soon be on the fast track to gaining confidence. If you are having difficulties in feeling this, think of all of the things in life that you have succeeded in. You are a source of power, and you have made it through so much already. Even when times are difficult, you still have strength deep inside, whether you see it or not.
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Think of your strongest qualities.Do you have a strong-willed passion and determination to finish what you start, or do you enable yourself to live to your fullest? Count everything as a quality, whether it be how beautiful your eyes are, or how skilled you seem to be at scrabble. Feel gratitude for each of these things. How do you think your life would be without one of your qualities? Who would you be otherwise? You see, so many people go day to day without realizing just how much they have until it's gone. Once you see how much you already have, you feel more complete and start to respect your life. Instead of comparing yourself to others, which brings down your self-esteem greatly, think of what you have that others are lacking.
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 Focus on today.
Focus on today. Make the most of this moment, this small space in time. Laugh more, be with family more often, take the time to appreciate other's company and learn to grow as an individual. Take a moment to assess how far you've made it in this life already. Are you all that you'd hoped to be by now? If not, think of what you could do to change. Could you listen more, hold higher expectations in yourself, or live in the now? Don't beat yourself up on the answers, as they will come in their own time. Think of all that you have done so far. You are making it in this world, you are improving minute by minute, day by day. Take a deep breath and breathe it all in. Imagine filling every space in your body with compliments from within.
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Feel beautiful, no matter what others think of you.
Believe that you are beautiful, inside and out. Compliment every single part of your body, and try to see yourself through a different pair of eyes. See yourself as beauty at its finest. The more you whole-heartedly believe that you are, in fact, good looking, the more you start to accept yourself. You can be sure that it will only get better as you do so. Let no one get in the way of what you're feeling, this is your life, and you should not let others bring you down. When life seems like a rainstorm, just remember all that you already have, and the people in your life that make it all worthwhile. Some people search the world for the things you already possess, something so real and so inspirational. Count your blessings and be ready for them to multiply!
Sep 29
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Learn to know yourself. Take a lot of time to think about yourself. Take some time every now and then and sit down and try to write down your goals for your life in general and small stuff in your everyday life you want to change. You only have this life, so if it's something you don't like about yourself, on the outside or/and on the inside, you can change it, and you can do it now! You don't have to look at yourself as the most gorgeous girl in the world, if you can't, but just be open to the possibility that you could be. You can do exactly what you want, as it's your life.
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Make a change. Whether it's a change in you appearance or within yourself, start off the new area with a mark that separates your new self from the old one. Don't be discouraged if you fail with the change the first time, since old habits are often hard to get rid of. Just know that it's possible.
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Get a role model. Find at least one person to look to for guidance. It could be somebody close to you or a celebrity who you admire in some way. They usually say that admiration for a person means that you find similar features in yourself. Don't try to be exactly like the other person. Just to look up to someone can change the way you look at different things. If you want, get different role models for different parts of yourself, like fashion, personality, talents and so on.
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Start moving your body. You do not necessarily have to really exercise, but moving your body makes a lot of difference. Just something like dancing, whether you're out or at home, or involving different activities makes a difference. When you're moving, you get endorphins flowing in the blood that will help you to radiate the sense of well-being and that will help you enjoy being you.
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Start to flirt. A big part of a young female's life are guys. Young girls are at a state in our life when we want to feel beautiful and accepted, and especially from guys. We want to feel wanted, but to feel wanted, you have to want. A flirt is not a big deal, but a smile or a glance can make you feel really daring, happy and pretty in a way. Never put yourself on a lower level than the person you like. You are just as worthy of love, and the people that can't look behind appearance or first impressions aren't worth your time.
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Friendships with girls. Surround yourself with lovely girls that you feel comfortable hanging out with. To be a girl you should have good friendships with girls around you, then you can together help each other and boost each others confidence. This does not exclude friendships with guys, since they can be good friends as well. But just make sure to find friends that are girls to get along with, because they go through similar stuff as you and can be helpful in areas where boys are not.
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Practice religion/Know your Beliefs. Knowing your beliefs and having them will give you confidence in who you are as an individual.
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Don't be too serious. Remember that everything is not dead-serious-stuff. Learn to laugh about yourself and silly things that get blown-up. This is your only life as far as you know, make the best of it. Try not to let the bad things take over your life, but take time for your feelings at the same time, the happy and the sad. Life is life, you have to feel sadness to feel happiness, so do not make excuses for yourself and your feelings. Make your final goal to enjoy life!
Sep 29
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Learn to appreciate small things. Whether it's having a computer, having friends,having a good supply of food, a bed to sleep on, family that loves you, having an decent education or simply being born in this world. Remember that the point of life is for you to enjoy it. Be happy, and life will reward you. Remember that these are the last few years you will be able to enjoy yourself without having to worry about the responsibility of an adult, but make sure you prepare yourself for when you do become one. When you actually become an adult, you'll learn to love that responsibility and you probably never want to go back.
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Choose your friends wisely. Unlike what many articles state, you don't have to bepopular and have a gazillion friends to be happy. In fact, many of the "friends" you have when you are popular are not true friends. Try to have friends that like you who you are, not just because you are wearing a certain brand of shoes or something like that. These are people who shop at the same store as you; not someone who will symphathize with you when your dog dies.
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Play a sport or work out. Having a healthy body leads to a healthy and happy mind. Being confident in your appearance makes you more confident in other areas.
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Be sociable. Participating in clubs, activities, and sports increases your chances ofmeeting new friends. While you only need 4 or 5 close friends, that doesn't mean you shouldn't try to meet new people. Participating gives you something to do instead of sitting bored at home and wallowing in self-pity.
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Go for it! If you have a special girl/guy you want to ask out, dance with, etc. just ask! You probably won't be rejected but if you are, remember that there will always be someone else that likes you for who you are. Don't go to sleep that night wishing you would have asked them. About 90% of the girls or guys you talk to will like you back, only about 10% probably will reject or badmouth you.
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Keep your grades up. There is nothing more satisfying than seeing your hard work pay off in the form of A's and B's (but mainly A's). This also sets you up to get into a collegeyou want to go to, which in turn prepares you for a career you will enjoy, improving your quality of life in the future. You'll get cheap car insurance as well if you have at least a B or A average.
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You can pursue interests you enjoy. Video games, for example, are good if you're the type who can get into that kind of thing. You should also find a hobby that is meaningful orpractical. Use your "hobby time" to either A) Volunteer (to gain practical skills for college apps, job resumes, and scholarships) B. Learn an instrument, or get into something else in the creative field like painting or dance, because this is the time to start developing and uncovering passions that might otherwise lie dormant.
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Work at a job you can enjoy. Working is a great way to gain experience and to meet other people. When you do get out of college, interviewing companies will look at your prior work experience. This will look great on your resume. If you can't find work, especially in this hard ecomomic time, volunteer or make your own job.
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Do your best at everything so you can be proud of everything you do. But remember to give yourself a break when you fail.
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Life is too short to wake up in the morning with regrets. You always regret the things you don't do.
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If you are not good at sports, join a band or choir. You'll still be going to games for free like the jocks if you are in pep band, and you have as many opportunities to meet new people as the jocks. Band and choir sometimes involves going on trips, and are great memories to have for high school and college. If you are not good at either music or sports, you can join other activities, start other hobbies, or get a job.
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Do well in school. Even though you want to enjoy your teen life as best as possible, don't slack off in school. It will pay off in the end. Plus, doing well means no angry parents.
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Plan something in the future. By doing this you will always have something to look forward to. If you're feeling down, if you have something to look forward to, then it will help pull you through this tough spot and get you excited about the future.
Sep 29
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Decorate with sentimental pieces.
Decorate with sentimental pieces. Frame pictures of your family and friends and place the photos around your flat. Play music that reminds you of your childhood or any happy times in your life. If you have any handmade quilts and pillows from a loved one then use them in your living room or bedroom. Ask your a parent, aunt, grandparent, or friend to send you some homemade cookies. Having a treat from home in your kitchen will brighten your mornings.
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Make a plan to write or email a loved one at the end or beginning of every week.
Make a plan to write or email a loved one at the end or beginning of every week. Or ask them to spend an hour with you on the telephone at a time when you are both free to chat.
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Meet new people.
Meet new people. Join a book club or an exercise class in your area. Hang around your local coffee shop and visit small businesses to connect with interesting and friendly people. Also, don't be afraid to ask someone from a college class or from your workplace to take a walk or go shopping with you. You will be pleasantly surprised at how easy going many people can be.
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Learn to be at peace with being alone.
Learn to be at peace with being alone. Sometimes it is best to have some alone time. Read a book, cook something new, catch up on a favorite television show or do something you haven't had time for.
Sep 29
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Watch a children's program. It doesn't matter what the age range is on the program. It could be a show for children aged Pre-K to 11 years old. It's the easiest way to take a break from the surrounding world. It may sound childish, but today, most children's shows are laced with a bit of humor that can be enjoyed by even the oldest viewer. Many programs also offer educational value, and bilingual characters. You may learn something new, meanwhile, feeding the kid in you!
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Get on Google! Google is an amazing search engine which allows you to access pictures, video, and information on just about anything. Try goggling different locations around the world. Check them out on Google maps. Read about these locations. Discover websites that uncover amazing facts about the location. Read reviews from people who have traveled to this destination. Find pictures and ultimately decide if you'd like to visit this destination. Publish your findings in a small journal. Not only to highlight these amazing places on Earth, but to see how much you've learned since you began! You may find that you have a new paradise to look forward to or perhaps an island that currently holds mysteries beyond science. The world is your oyster and to learn more about your world is to be enlightened about your own life.
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Eat a new dish. Whether you're an amazing cook and can handle cooking a new dish, or would prefer to order-out from the professionals, a new dish is only a call or restaurant visit away! You could even start by trying a new native meal and eventually trying a dish from another culture. Opening your palate and tasting what the world has to offer is an amazing way to uncover some culinary arts that you may have otherwise allowed to pass you by.
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Set goals. Even the smallest goals, including paying a bill on time or larger ones such as working to eliminate a debt will make you feel successful when you finally can cross them off. Anything worth having is worth working for, so don't get discouraged. Write at least 20 you'd like to accomplish in the next Year and work them off. Don't wait for a New Year's resolution to change your life. Put forward a little progress toward a goal everyday. Be Happy about what you accomplished, because YOU did it! Treat yourself when they are completed.
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Get comfortable with yourself. No amount of anything, be it money or otherwise, will make you happy if you are unhappy with yourself. Even those with large fortunes still manage to get plastic surgery and blow excessive amounts of money to replace the self-esteem which only comes from within.
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Accept past mistakes. Allow the knowledge you carried afterwards to make you a stronger & wiser person. It's only a problem if you keep repeating these mistakes. Accept the past altogether. While it is easier said than done, it must be done. You cannot alter history. As devastating or hurtful as the past can be, it is the future we look toward and can impact. Use tragedy as an outlet to join community efforts that seek to prevent/support that cause. Remember that whatever you are doing should be toward making a better tomorrow. Not rehashing the past. If you find yourself thinking more of the past than your future perhaps you should seek the help of a professional/family member/church member that you can talk to to help to give you the nudge you need to move forward with your beautiful life.
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Remember you are Loved and you Live to Love. There are people in this world who although they may not know you, love you. This could be distant family or perhaps, a stranger who simply believes in your potential. Know that you are loved and exude that love to those around you so that you may reap the reward of being an exemplary example of human kindness and self-fulfillment. You have to love yourself in order to love others entirely. BE PRICELESS. There is no amount of monetary value that can be placed on changing someone's life in a positive way. Be the first to lend a hand or simply listen to someone. Even if you aren't the person you'd like to be today, love yourself and send love to the person you're working so hard to become.
Sep 29
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Know, that you can't always count on other people to look after you. She has to do things on her own, by standing up for herself, without being mean.
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Be a good friend at all times. A girl must be there for her friend, and never let them down. She must also know how to choose the right ones.
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Look after yourself. You want to stay safe online at all times.
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Learn Everyday Essentials, such as: Brushing your teeth, Washing your hair, Deal with a Zit, Tie shoe Laces and many more!
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Girls also have to learn how to cook. One day, you will be an adult, nobody will do it for you.
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Know how to Clean up after yourself. You have to Clean your Room and your House when you're older. Don't throw a Sulk when your Mum or dad tell you to Clean your Room. They do it for your own good.
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Know emergency skills from a young age.
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Have a good Education. It's ok being the Class Clown, but don't get into trouble.
Sep 29
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Don't tell your friends about things you don't want them to know about. Its none of their business if you still wet the bed, or sleep with a favorite stuffed animal.
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Avoid lying. Lying at any age is very unpopular; you will most likely get caught, and it will make you look even worse than before.
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Remember what being "grown-up" means. There are 36-year-olds that aren't really grown up. Being "grown-up" means a lot of things. At this age, remember to take responsibility for your actions, stand up for what is right, but most of all, remember to have fun. Being eleven or twelve years old only comes once in your life—don't worry about being fully grown up just yet.
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Be confident in who you really are. People are attracted to those who seem confident in themselves. At this age your bodies are growing, they are changed, and you feel like everyone is watching you. They're not. You may think you're not as pretty at the girl who come back from summer vacation looking like a woman, or as handsome and cool as the star athlete, but we all grow and change differently. You are right where you are supposed to be!
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Always be true to who you are At this age it is normal for you to want to find what group you fit in at school, so it's okay to explore what it is that you like and don't like. Once you do find "who you are", remain true to that person.
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Be Fit If you are fit when you are a kid then you will be a happy kid. If you are obese you will probably get picked on at school. Some people will judge you by how fat you are and normally that is not a good judgement for them. If you are obese then you might grow to have lots of other deadly health problems which can make you depressed and miserable.
Sep 29
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Realize that not everyone is dating. The next time you go to one of your classes, look around. Look at every one of the girls in your class, and try to think whether she is dating or not. (If you don't know, assume she isn't.) Chances are, you'll find that not everyone has a boyfriend. However, if you find that every girl you looked at for sure has a boyfriend, donot be discouraged. There are probably plenty of other girls in your school who are not dating.
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Recognize the benefits. Think about it. Your friends who are taken can't go to a party and flirt with that hot new guy. They can't go out as often. They often feel they can't go out dressed as sexy, for fear guys will "oggle" them. Meanwhile, you can go out whenever (you don't have to stay in because "Chad said he'd call me sometime between 4 and 10"), you can dress up as hot as you want, and you can flirt shamelessly.
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Busy yourself. If you find that your old Friday night gal pals are all out with their "guy pals", please resist the urge to sit inside watching The Notebook and eating a tub of Häagen-Dazs! Go online and look up a facial mask recipe. Do your homework. Paint your nails. Watch a brand new thriller movie. Read a book. Catch up on some beauty sleep. Have fun on wikiHow. These are just some of the things you could be doing (which your taken friends will not be doing!).
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Don't become a third wheel. This is crucial. It's extremely awkward to be the only one not cuddled up in a booth at Boston Pizza, or trying to hear the movie over the slurpy (ew!) sounds of couples making out. If some of your friends invite you out, and you realize that you'll be the odd one out, invite another single friend (or call your crush!) or just don't go. If you choose not to go, refer to step number three.
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Explore. You're young. You're single. Don't sit around all day moping: do something about it! Scope out some new cuties, or call that summer fling. If your town has the same old guys, you're crushing on someone who is unattainable like a teacher or someone's math teacher (shocking!), or you simply haven't had any summer flings or just don't like anyone at the moment, don't worry! Maybe your friend's boyfriend's cousin would like to meet up sometime. Maybe that foreign exchange student isn't so weird after all. Maybe you've begun to find the guy next door a lot more attractive than the lifeguard at the pool. It doesn't matter. You've got your whole life ahead of you.
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Don't be desperate. Please, please, please don't run around throwing yourself at every boy you see. You don't have to dress a certain way (put down the tube top and micro-mini), do your hair or makeup a certain way, or act a certain way to get a guy. It may sound totally cliché, but be yourself, and you will find somebody who likes you for who you are. It may not be this week, this month, this year, or even during high school. But you will find someone.
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Don't worry, be happy. In the end, your single friends still love you (a girls night out with the fellow single chicks is a good thing), your taken friends still love you (they can talk to you about guy woes without hearing "oh yeah? Well Brandon said this in our last fight…"), your family still loves you, and somewhere, a future partner is waiting to love you. For now, hold your head up high, smile, love (and be loved), and live.
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Do the stuff you really want to do! One of the benefits of being single is you now have more spare time to do the stuff you really want to do! Spoil yourself, donate to charity, try a new sport, flirt a little, read and write stories, spend time with your friends, call an old friend, make a website, do homework, chat online, etc.
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Write a contract. Promise yourself things that you'll do when you start dating such as: clear your schedule from time to time to do the things you want to do, make time for school work, balance your life, etc.
Sep 29
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If you're arguing with someone just stop and walk away. By arguing you most likely are making matters worse, not proving your point.
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Drink plenty of water. Cut down on the pop. Water will keep you hydrated and can help you feel more relaxed.
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Don't take your problems out on other people or yourself. Making other people hurt regardless of what they did or said isn't going to make you feel any better. Harming yourself can cause more problems then you think. It makes matter a lot worse. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.
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Eat healthier. Studies show teens who eat healthier are in a better mood throughout the day.
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Listen to some music.
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Get lost in a book.
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Draw a picture. It's okay to be a kid again. It feels kind of good!
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Write a song. It helps show how you really feel without effecting anyone in a negative way.
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Punch a pillow. It helps, trust me.
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Eat some candy. Chill out!
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Watch some TV
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Shut off the phone. Texting people while you're mad can result in negative situations.
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Go off by yourself for a little while. Just relax!
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Write down all of your thoughts in a journal. I know it seems cheesy, but it really does help to write it all down.
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