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Drug preguntas
Sep 29
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Decide which people and places make you feel anxious. People who intimidate, insult, or just make you feel awful are usually the underlying causes, as well as the places where it happens.
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Go to places where you usually become anxious and try to become reacquainted with the place.
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Public spaces. – Most people often find themselves getting a lot more worked up and anxious in situations they feel out of control or enclosed in. This can happen in places such as buses, busy shops, or at gigs. The most important thing to remember is that you are not going to be there in that situation forever. Just keep saying or thinking, " I'll see how I feel in five minutes or at the next stop." before escaping from the situation. Anxiety often makes people feel sick or faint, but always remember you will never actually throw up or faint so try and put that to the back of your mind. Most people, whether it be doctors or parents, often try to use breathing techniques, which in some cases rarely work. However, the best breathing technique to use is breathing in slowly through your nose and out you mouth. Rubbing your stomach from top to bottom slowly will help calm it down. Remember that there is usually a chance in these situations to leave to calm yourself down; if you start feeling the need to get of the bus, leave the store, etc. then it is no big deal; try again in a couple minutes. You could also try taking five minutes and saying your going to the toilet if you feel you only need a couple of minutes to calm down. Try to remember a bottle of water which may help you feel less shaky.
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Tell someone. – If you make plans to go shopping with a friend or out for tea but are worried you will need to leave or will have an anxiety attack, try and tell a friend before hand. Close friends will usually be supportive of you. You should never cancel plans in fear of anxiety. The more you expose yourself to uncomfortable situations, the more comfortable you feel. You wouldn't usually feel anxious about going on your computer or walking around your garden because you're used to these things. If you are doing something that is out of your comfort zone, try telling a parent or guardian about it and see if they could pick you up or give you extra bus fares. Usually just the comfort of having a back up plan can help you feel calmer.
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Have a distraction! If you are a music lover, always remember your iPod or mp3 player. If you are in an anxious situation, put in your earphones and try to distract yourself in the music. If you have games on your phone, a Nintendo, etc. then do the same and distract your self until you feel calmer. Another good idea is carrying around "distraction cards" which may sound stupid but do actually work. Write riddles, puzzles, jokes, memories, or anything you think will distract yourself from it. This isn't recommended for those trying to fix their anxiety altogether since you're avoiding the problem rather than fixing it.
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Relax. When you get back from a particularly stressful day at school or an embarrassing encounter with someone, don't spend the rest of the day cursing yourself for what you said or did (or what you didn't say and do). Make a favorite food of yours, read a book, take a nap- whatever you can do to take your mind off of it.
Sep 29
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Understand that you will initially be in shock. The first reaction you have won't be your final one. You might not know what to say at all. That's ok. It will take your mind some time to process.'
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Your friend is going to be in a lot of pain – but this is difficult for you too. It may seem that the burden you carry pales in comparison to that of your friends, but, it is there. It's not easy when someone you care for deeply is going through severe suffering. Acknowledge your own emotions.
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Don't avoid your friend – try to be there for them. It's hard, but avoiding them will only make them more upset.
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Try to help your friend with the emotional pain. You can't wave a magic wand and make the pain go away, but you can be there for your friend, and tell them that you wish that you could take the pain away.
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Understand that your friend would be experiencing a lot of other emotions. It's not just sadness. She might not feel like a woman, she might feel that she failed her partner, she might be afraid for her future prospects of being a parent. It's more than just grief for the child. Self resentment, fear, anger, self blame and a whole lot of other emotions are mixed in to the grief.
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DON'T say things like "you can have another child" or "maybe it was sick or something" or "maybe it's better to adopt". Your friend isn't looking for tips or advice. They just want the pain to go away. They want the hurt, and fears, and resentment and anger gone. And you can't take that away. Another child, or anything else, wouldn't take the pain that they are feeling away. All that you can do is say you care and that you wish you could help them get through this.
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Expect the emotional pain to take time to get beyond. Your friend could still be upset in two years time. It could be a long process. Don't push things, don't label them as depressed or anything. It's grief, and grief takes time to work through.
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If it's your partner that has miscarried, be wary about your own emotions. Men often don't express themselves well, but right now things are as hard for you as they are for her. It's a difficult time in the relationship, and the way you communicate now is important. Acknowledge your own struggles and do your best to reassure your partner. Amongst all the grief and pain, she probably also feels like she let you down.
Sep 29
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Get this bottled up energy out. Rip up paper, scream into a pillow, yank grass out of its roots, throw around a stuffed animal, etc. Do it all in order if you have too, it gets that itch from crawling under your skin like an insipid snake.
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Distract your body. Get a cup and fill it up with ice cubes, then, one by one, grip each cube in your hands until you feel you`ve had enough. While doing this, think of the longest words in your head and add up their syllables. After about five minutes, you should feel slightly better.
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Lay Down. It is better if you do this on the floor. Put on some music, and place your hands on your stomach. Let your stomach rise and fall gently along with your breathing. Sing if you feel the urge. Wiggle your toes and fingers, and be aware of them moving to your every command, remind yourself that your in control.
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If you can, jot down what you feel, even if it is just a few words.
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Refresh yourself. Take a shower, scrub off all of the pain and stress, or drink a large glass of cold water. Water has healing powers, use it to your best advantage. Feel muggy and ill? Mix salt and water together and wait 30 seconds. Get a rag and soak it in for a minute, then rub the rag on your skin and the walls of your house. Within seconds you should feel the difference.
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Indulge in what you enjoy doing. Play the piano, sketch a bit, write a poem, whatever you like. Watch a cartoon and smile at the innocence of it. Call a friend or look up some jokes on the Internet. Distract yourself.
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Talk about it. Grab your Teddy Bear and pour out your emotions. Cry to your goldfish. Try speaking with a friend.
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Feel better?
Sep 29
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Find a group of people who make you feel safe and accepted.
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Realize that it is not acceptable to be angry all the time. You need to learn how to control your anger or you'll end up worse than what you think you'll end up like while you're angry.
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Think about who you hurt when you're angry. Yourself, those who care about you, and potentially the person you're frustrated with.
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Think about someone who has been short tempered with you at some time in your life – a family member, a schoolmate, or anyone else. It's never pleasant to have somebody upset or angry with you. Try to understand that the other person is probablynot trying to tick you off. They may be trying to tell you that you have done something unacceptable. Or sometimes, they are just plain envious.
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Examine your feelings. What did that person do? What do you feel must be done to "fix" the situation so you can feel better? Walking away, telling who's annoying you that they're upsetting or bothering you, changing the subject or ignoring whatever is upsetting you can all help.
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Do not take your anger out on other people or yourself. If you really feel the need to express your anger physically, punch your pillow or something like that.
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Seek help if necessary. If you cannot get past your anger and you start to plan on what you can do to get even, this is a warning signal that your problem is getting bigger than you.
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Read a book. Pick up a classic from your local library and realize the potential for human thought and intellect.
Sep 29
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Tell the people around you. By telling the people around you that you have decided to be a woman will help you accept it yourself if they can't accept you for how you are them they are not the sort of people you want around you.
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Meet other people such as yourself If you meet people like yourself who want to become woman then you can all help each other accept who you are.
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Make the change If you are 100% sure that you want to become a woman then maybe now it is time to to the next step and have the sex change that you desire but if you are having any doubts what so ever i would advise that you do not do as you may regret it in the future.
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Realise that it's OK to feel this way. Although it isn't a common thing, it doesn't mean you are a freak. It's important for you to accept who you are, before anyone else can.
Sep 29
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Think about why you are miserable now, and what's making you long to be back in the past. There could be many typical ( or random ) reasons why you may feel this way. Did someone bully you? It may be the whole new workload that high school is giving you, or the fact that you are you missing your old friends. Or it may simply be the major change you're experiencing as a teenager. You must discover the reasons for your sadness. Write the reason(s) down on a list.
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If you really don't know what is getting you down then, fill a diary with your current thoughts and feelings every week or so. When looking back upon diary entries, people are usually surprised by what they thought during the time!
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Accept your present situation. There's no point wishing that you could be in playgroup or kinder again, when you know it's impossible. Life will always involve some work from now on, because you are on your way to being an adult.
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Look through the list you created. Decide upon which complaints are realistic, and which ones are unachievable. For example, if you wrote "I'm sad because I want to be 3 again so I don't have school and can watch 'The Wiggles' all day," -get over it! A whim like that is totally unachievable and will never happen again. However if you wrote "I'm sad because I wish to be 7 again, because then I had friends but now I don't.", that's actually reasonable, because something can be done about it.
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Ditch all those impossible whims from the list, it's a total waste of time mourning over it. Attempt to make the possible ones real. So try to make more friends, try to have more fun, play chasey once in while, laugh a lot, watch funny movies, etc.
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Get moving! Try to make your teen years the happiest, they can be, because you only get 7 years. Have fun!
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If you are sad because you are away from home(for kids studying abroad), it can be really difficult. But read, or study, or socialize, and somehow try to make yourself forget about the situation.
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Find out if there is anything you can do. Why are you feeling nostalgic? If you are missing old friends, then contact them by telephone or e-mail and arrange to meet up. If you miss an old school/childhood, it may help to wander around the school once more and maybe say hello to familiar faces if it helps.
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Stick with people who are friendly and can help you. If you are still with some people who were with you during the times you now long for, talk it over with them. They might be feeling the same way. Talking it over certainly helps.
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Give your nostalgia a chance. Nostalgia is not a bad thing: it's just your mind suddenly remembering a certain period in time. When you have the time, listen to a song which makes you nostalgic to relieve yourself and to remove the pressure.
Sep 28
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Ask the teacher for permission to leave the classroom. It is best to ask to go to the bathroom, because he or she will assume you have to.
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Go to the bathroom if you really must. If you don't have to, just walk around the school a few times, particularly near a quiet place such as the auditorium or the choir room. Take a drink if you need one.
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Run a few laps or shoot a few hoops in the gym if it's really bad. Most phys ed teachers won't care and they'll be happy if you got some exercise. Also, you might get extra credit from the gym teacher.
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Get your CD player or iPod and listen to a few songs before you go back to class.
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Return to class relaxed and ready to move on with the day. Also, if you spent more than 5 minutes outside of the classroom, tell her that you really had to use the bathroom, or that you felt a little nauseous (queasy, sick) and had to sit down for a time to recover. Also, tell her you had a stomach ache so it took a while. (She'll know what you're talking about.)
- If things are so bad that all you want to do is go home, ask to call your parents and get someone to come and collect you. If this isn't possible, try to go and lie down in the sick bay for a short while; at least it will give you quiet rest and some time to think over things. Go outside and take a deep breath of fresh air
- Try to talk to your parents, your relatives, or someone you trust about your stress problems and they'll understand and give you advice.
- See the student nurse or counselor if you feel really rotten and alone. At least they can cover your absence for you with an explanation and may give you some time to talk things through.
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Sep 28
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It is good to talk to people about it, especially an adult who has gone through the same experience as you or your parents. If you are scared to tell anyone for fear of being placed in CPS care, don't be. It's sometimes better for parents to hit rock bottom, then maybe get better, rather than you having bad role models in an unstable or abusive home. Getting taken by CPS may seem worse than living with your parent, but in the long run, for your health and theirs, it's sometimes much better.
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Do not, under any circumstances, blame yourself as it is not your fault your parents are addicts . Addiction is a very harsh thing that consumes your very soul, and when you're addicted to something it's extremely hard to think about or want anything other than what your addicted to. If you've tried your best to help, but always end up being hurt or ignored, it's not your fault. Not that your efforts aren't nice or anything. It's just the only thing that can help an addict is for them to want help for themselves and admit they have a problem they cant control. Usually they have to hit rock bottom before they will admit they have a problem and finally take action. Nothing you could have ever done made them start doing drugs and you must never blame yourself.
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Learn from mistakes made by yourself and your parents. Remember each time they hurt you, how it made you feel abandoned and neglected. Remember the pain, and promise yourself that you'll never make your children, or anyone else for that matter, feel the same way. It will be hard to do, considering you've grown up around drugs or alcohol addiction, but if you remember the pain it will teach you a lesson you don't have to repeat.
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Find others with the same story. It's important to have people to talk to about what's happening in your life and this is really important. If you feel uncomfortable talking with someone you know personally, then here are some hotline phone numbers, and websites to help you out.
- 24houraddictionhelp.org/DrugAbuse
- ChildHelp USA National Child Abuse Hotline: 800-4-A-CHILD (422.4453)
- National Youth Crisis Hotline 1-800-448-4663
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Article From South Africa. An important note to mention , is that you are not on your own. There are many facilities and resources that are available to you.
Sep 28
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Tell someone that you trust! It's harder to fight this battle alone. Have the courage to reach out to someone for help – a teacher, relative, friend's parent, or anyone that you know you can trust. Even if it's just a friend who can't do anything to help change the situation, it's important to let someone know that you're being abused. They can give you moral support, help you get away from your parents, or act as a witness if your parents deny that they ever abused you.
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Try to do what you can to prevent/avoid the abuse, or at the least some of the biggest attacks. Try to recognize the 'triggers' (things said or done) that really set your parents off. If you recognize them it will be easier to avoid doing them to somewhat lessen the frequency of the abuse. Also, find safe places in your house. Try to avoid the areas where you are abused the most. Find areas (such as your bedroom) that act as safe havens. If you're abused everywhere, find another place to hang, get stuff done, and spend your time, such as at a library or a friend's house. If your parents allow you to go to friend's houses, go to your friend's houses after school as frequently as you can. Not only can you get support from your friends at this time, but you're also away from your parents.
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Bite your tongue. When you are stuck being bombarded with the abuse don't harass your parents no matter how much you want to get up in their faces and give them a taste of their own medicine. Trying to talk and reason with them might work, but being mean back will not help and will most likely make it worse.
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Tell your parents how you feel. Go to your parents at an appropriate time; when they're not busy and they're in a good mood. You may also want to to to a neutral/public setting such as a restaurant. Calmly tell them how sad it makes you when they put you down constantly. It will make the conversation more grown-up because you have stated your problem clearly and calmly. You might want to have everything you want to say written down, or have it practiced beforehand so you can keep your cool if they try to provoke you or get off-topic. Keep in mind that you are also setting yourself up for the possibility of more abuse from your parents if they're not at a point where they can reason and talk things out to make the family situation better.
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Try to move on in a positive way. If you are able to have a good conversation with them, and they listen to your concerns in the future, you will hopefully feel relieved and know that you have accomplished something good. From here, you and your parents can hope to move forward with your lives. If you aren't able to have a good conversation or move forward with your parents, remember that you tried. You made an effort and gave your parents a chance to work with you.
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Get some help from a school guidance counsellor or a therapist. The earlier you seek counseling the better. Over time, the emotional abuse will only get worse as you grow older and your parents start to lose control over you. This can change who you are as an adult and how you view others. The fact that they feel they've done nothing wrong can make even the strongest person, over time, feel unloved and as though they are at fault.
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Get away from the abuse. The sad reality is that most abusive parents stay abusive – there's nothing you can do to stop their behaviour. If this is the case, and they are not willing to work on changing, think long and hard about ways to get out of the situation and away from the abuse. If you can get away from your parents and stay with a sympathetic relative, DO IT. If you have a great friend that you can stay with, DO IT. Save up some money, and make yourself a plan of where to go to keep yourself safe (physically and emotionally). Consider applying for boarding school or school away from home if you have the money, or applying for grants (financial scholarships) if you don't. Basically, if the abuse doesn't stop, get out of that house!
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Have the moral courage to tell yourself that while some families are functional, yours is clearly not, and never will be. Trust your own judgement. Abusers will break your will to the point that you feel guilty about thinking for yourself. The worst abusers will make everything about you subject to their approval. They see your individuality as a threat, and will undermine it, if not destroy it, every chance they get.
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Don't cry until you're sure that your parent(s) cannot see nor hear you. Some abusive parents actually aim to make you cry and when you do, they'll think they've won and will continue to attack you in that same soft spot. Like parasites and cowards, they feed on your weaknesses and inspirations. If you have a sibling who you know can comfort you and back you up, go right to them and share your feelings. Most of the time they agree, but some of the time it's just you that the parent(s) are aggressive towards (scapegoating).
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Call the police if you can't take it anymore.
Sep 28
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Be Positive. It means that you have to train yourself to be optimistic. For example, when your father promised to bring you to England but in the end he could not because of work, you should look at the bright side (you could tell yourself that staying at home meant that you have time to catch up on your homework).
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Do things you like when you are disappointed. For example, if you like to sing, sing when you are disappointed, really concentrate on the lyrics to distract yourself.
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Laugh Watch a funny movie or whatever will guarantee you can laugh.. You can easily distract yourself by laughing.
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Throw a Party If you are the party type, organize a party. That would definitely put your mind off as you would focus a lot on organizing a great party and having fun in your very own party.
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Express your disappointment healthily. You would feel better after expressing your feelings (healthily). You could write on your diary, write a song, write a poem or make a vlog or do karate kicks or scream in your pillow etc.
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Call your friends. You could chat with your friend for hours to distract yourself.
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Ask your friends to come over You could ask your friend to come over to do some studying together, or just hang out (read magazines together, paint each others nails, play video games together etc.) That could keep your mind occupied.
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