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Sep 28
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Keep plenty pictures of your parent. Pictures can help us to remember people, and to share these special people with others.
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Remember that he/she is away serving the country and helping out. Many people, especially since the personnel surge in Iraq and Afghanistan, don't understand deployment. Many uninformed people believe that our soldiers are being cruelly used. While this may be so in a few cases, the majority of military men and women are proud of what they do. Don't EVER let these people make you ashamed. You are part of the greatest organization in the world, the United States Armed Forces!
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Keep in touch Some ships are at sea for as long as a year, so it can be tough. Catch up on things as much as possible. In this day and age, keeping in touch is easier than ever. Try setting up two free Yahoo or AOL Instant Message screen names for you and your parent to use while they are deployed. If you have the capability, you can use webcams to set up a conference with your parents every few days. Use your phone too. In many cases, family members of a deployed soldier are given calling cards, so use those. Finally, don't rule out good old fashioned snail mail. Send letters with comics of your daily life, pictures, ticket stubs, you name it! Every month or so, send a big box with cookies, new DVDs, board and card games, more pictures, cards, letters and anything else you can think of.
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Stay Busy. Try to do as many fun things as you can while your parent is away. This is especially crucial in the summer months, as the absence of school makes it easy to stay home and drown in your sadness.
Sep 28
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Be accepting of the pain. The loss of your dad can easily take away your emotions and impact on who you feel you are. You won't feel the same after this loss and it is important to accept that this is a normal state.
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Talk to others. Speak with family and friends as openly as possible. They know you are going through a really difficult time and it is important to share your emotions, your ups and downs and your fears with others. Remember that your inner circle of family members are probably experiencing similar emotions and maybe you can help one another through this devastating time. However, if you don't feel comfortable talking with family members or you feel that their own pain has locked them away from you so intensely, you should feel free to talk to your peers and people who can help at school such as counselors or a doctor. If you would prefer a more private setting try blogging or chatting online. It is best not to bottle it up inside; while you can still keep deep emotions and reflections to yourself, talking to some extent is vital to keep you connected with humanity and feeling the power of supportive friendships.
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Talk to your mother. Many young people feel an overwhelming need to protect their mother from pain. Yes, she will be suffering intensely but she needs you and you need her. Remember that your reluctance to speak with her may be interpreted by her as a need for her to avoid upsetting you by talking too much about the loss. As such, this can turn into a vicious cycle of both of you trying to protect one another and neither one of you actually opening up and actively talking through what has happened and sharing your pain. Acknowledge it first if your mother cannot and tell her that you do need to talk to her about your feelings of loss. Also tell her that you want to discuss how you love her and how you still love your dad and that you want to keep the memories intact as a family effort. In this way, you can try and help avoid joint isolation in grief.
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Seek professional help. It is really important to seek counseling if you are having feelings of depression and an inability to cope with your loss. It will not improve things for you if you allow yourself to be swept under by powerful negative emotions.
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Allow yourself to cry. It is going to be hard and crying is a normal outlet. If you feel that you need to maintain a brave face in front o fothers, cry in your own personal space, whenever the urge takes you. But realize also, that there is no losing face or shame in crying in front of anybody during a time like this. Everybody can imagine how terrible it must be to lose a father and they will be supportive.
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Talk about who your dad was. Remember the good things about your dad and look at photos of him. Put together a memory album and write down all the wonderful things you have experienced together. Other ideas include making a collage, writing letters to your dad and saving them or disposing of them in a symbolic fashion and making a DVD of times spent together.
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Integrate the loss into your life. Over time your grief will change in the way that it is expressed. Few people ever truly "get over" the loss of a close loved one but most people find a special place in their heart that guards the memory and essence of the lost person for life. Accept that you will faced with the heartache of the loss of your father time and time again through life, especially on occasions where you would have expected your father to be standing by your side, such as graduations, sports events, a wedding etc. You will also lack the advice on finances, planning, socializing etc. that a father would have provided you. Accept these realities and do your own planning and find mentors who are supportive, caring and capable of assisting you in these ways.
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Know that you will always be your dad's child. He may have died but you still continue to have a relationship with him. You will always be his child and he will always live on in your heart. Others will know the person he was through you; so treasure the memories and be ready to share them with others as time moves on.
Sep 28
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Find an activity you can take part in that is outside of school, but non-competitive, like rec league soccer or BMX or dirt biking. Adrenaline-inducing activities might get you through tough periods because when your are on a track on a dirt bike, or screaming down a trail on a mountain bike, your mind loses focus and you think about anything else besides what is right in front of you,because if you don't you will fall. (and hard.) So it forces you to temporarily block out all the stress and problems that bug you and focus on the here and now.
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Look for group activities to do with friends outside of school. Maybe you all meet at a burger place and then walk to the movies together. Things like that help build essential social skills.
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Go to local events that interest you that you might be able to meet people with like-minded interests. Sometimes it can be hard to make friends at school. If you like to bike, go to a bike swap, maybe you can meet someone to ride with.
Sep 28
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Go into it with an open mind. Don't automatically assume that this experience is going to be horrible. Think positive – you might love it at your new house and make some new friends! Take it slow; take it day by day.
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Keep in touch with your other parent. Don't let your other parent feel left out, especially if you just left their house. Find a way to keep in touch with them. Call them, text them, email them, Skype them, post a message on their Facebook page, or even snail mail them. You don't need to have a lot to say, just talk to them about your day and tell them that you love them.
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If you're having trouble in the new home talk to the parent in that home. They might not even realize that you're struggling, or don't want to embarrass you by stepping in and trying to help you. Let them know that you're having trouble, and that way they can do the best they can to help you adjust.
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Try to stay in touch with friends in your hometown. "Make new friends, but keep the old", right? Just as you're keeping in touch with your other parent, keep in touch with your friends through Facebook, Twitter, email, Skype, or other social networking sites. Call them, text them, or write them letters if you want. One day you could even invite your best friend over to your new house.
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Join a club at school to make some new friends and keep you occupied. Joining clubs will not only let you have fun, but they'll help you to meet people with the same interests as you that can be future friends.
Sep 28
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Introduce yourself if they don't already know you.
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Join the conversation if you understand what it's about. Just don't interrupt anyone.
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If you don't understand what the conversation is about and the situation allows for it you can ask someone what it is about.
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Be polite and have good manners.
Sep 28
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Get to know yourself! Who are you? What do you like? What do you want in life? Know who you really are! Know your strength and weakness, the positive and the negative things about you.
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Look your best! The tv in your nation surely shows people who has the same ethnicity as everybody else. Example, they show Hispanic people in Mexico, Asian people in China and White people in France… You would like to look like what the media shows are beautiful people, but the true beauty is not the color of your hair, it's how neat it is and how good it smells. Know the true law of attraction
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Love yourself! Now that you know yourself, it wouldn't help if you absolutely hate who you are… You are great! People, most females, often underestimate themselves. See?! You are better than you think!
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Now when you know yourself, get friends you have something in common with! For example, if you're musical, get musical friends! And instead of looking at the difference between you and your friends, look at what you have in common. Appreciate them!
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Be proud about your ethnicity! Have a role model. Know a person or two that you look up to and has/have the same ethnicity as yours, or reminds yourself of who you are and who you want to be.
Sep 26
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Get good quality, budget clothes. If you want to survive school, buy some nice, fashionable but cheap clothes. Wear jeans and a plain shirt if you want to look low key. If you have a uniform, keep it clean and dress it up with nice earrings or a bright bag. Don't try too hard to look fashionable…people will see right through your attempts.
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Enjoy your lessons. You can do your work and still have a good time. Ask your teacher if you can work in pairs. This can make new friends. But keep quiet and do some work, or the teacher will probably split you up. If working in pairs is not an option, either talk very quietly to the person nearest to you while working, or get your head down and concentrate very hard. It is important to revise before tests and exams, and always try and get high grades. Do your best on homework, and always bring it on time. Remember to bring all the equipment you need.
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Make friends. Be nice to everyone, don't give anyone a reason to be your enemy. Don't do anything trashy, like steal your best friend's boyfriend or get into a fight. Be nice and gentle with people, remember your manners and never lose your temper. You could get into a lot of trouble at school if you lose your head and go mouthing off at the wrong person.
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Get out and meet the boys/girls. Don't be the person who hides in the corner and never approaches a boy/girl. Be friendly and casual with boys/girls, treat them like your friends and they will start seeing you in a new light. If you have a crush on someone, don't scare them by running over and declaring your love. Also, don't send them love notes or they will think of you as weird. Subtly ask them to the cinema, or tell them that you think they are cute or something. Don't be one of those girls/guys who dates everyone, and don't ever ever get desperate and date a total idiot. Respect yourself and never try and get a boyfriend/girlfriend by telling them you'll put out.
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Maintain a neat appearance. Look clean and nice. Always have clean hair, and if you have a problem with frizz, sort it. A cool look in school is to straighten your hair, poker straight.However if you have wavy hair, smooth it out with some cream for loose sexy curls. Have fresh skin and try to keep spots away by taking any make up off at night and using a cleanser, toner and moisturizer. Brush your teeth twice a day, floss and use mouthwash. Use lip balm to get smooth lips, and pluck your eyebrows so that they look groomed. Wear deodorant and a nice perfume, and don't wear too much makeup. A common mistake is overdoing the fake tan and looking orange. Just stick to mascara and lip balm for a natural but nice look.
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Be calm and neutral before enemies. There will always be people who don't like you for whatever reason. You shouldn't be giving them a reason, so don't ever shout anything offensive at them or lose your temper. Remain calm and ignore them. They are probably just jealous. If they ever challenge you to a fight, walk away.
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Respect your teachers. There will be teachers that you don't like, and teachers who don't like you. Pay attention in lessons and they should like you more. As for teachers you hate or simply don't get along with, get through the lesson by distracting yourself. Think about what you are going to do that night, but don't daydream or stop doing your work. If you are really good, you will be able to do the work while thinking about other things.
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Be active after school. Join clubs, be social, go to netball or football practice. Or invite your friends to the cinema or bowling, or to a dinner. Have fun, but always have enough time that night to go home and do any homework that you have. Also, getting sleep is important too, and remembering to pack your bag the night before.
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Be organized for school mornings. You can make school seem better if you prepare well in the morning. Make sure you have everything packed, get a shower, take time to focus on your appearance. Also, it is important to eat a good breakfast. Try toast, cereal or crumpets! Also, drink a lot of water throughout the day and smile!
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Don't freak out about things that don't really matter. If you fail a test in middle school, who cares? No college will ever look at your middle school report card. You can ask your teacher for extra credit, but even if they don't give it to you, you can still resolve to work harder in the future and bring up the grade. If you have psychotic parents, talk to them about lowering their impossible expectations a little bit. I'm not saying you shouldn't try, but if you worked your hardest and still got only a B-, that's fine! Don't be hard on yourself, as it will have no major impact on your life.
Sep 26
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Push them outside on a sunny day. If they don't burn up, ask them that if they really are a vampire, "Why aren't you burnt to a crisp?"
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Invite them to eat lunch and/or dinner somewhere. Make sure they get something with garlic. Afterwards, tell them it had garlic in it, and that, supposedly, vampires cannot consume or smell garlic.
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Tell them they have something in their teeth. When they try to remove the invisible something, tell them to just go look in a mirror, and figure out where it is. When they see their reflection, remind them that vampires do not show up mirrors.
Sep 26
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- Cuddle your dog or cat. Being with pets can really cheer your up. If you have a fish or other pets, be with them! They don't speak but there silence has many things to learn. They have their own way of showing their love and care for you. Every moment with them is a lesson for life.
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 Read a book.
Read a book. Read that book you've been dying to read, or catch up on summer reading. Sometimes reading books open up mind and let you imagine what you could have never before.
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Watch TV or catch up on recorded shows.
Watch TV or catch up on recorded shows. Specially shows that brings smile on your face rather than violence. Many shows open up your heart, let you see the world, its people and different relation through different way. They can teach the importance of every relation and it's role in our life.
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Sleep a little! Resting can help you calm down.
Sleep a little! Resting can help you calm down. Sleeping settles down every thing that unstable your mind. It's a way of conserving energy and relaxing mind.
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Cook.
Cook. Better food lets you to think in a better way. So many people find joy in cooking food. And once it get the way you want it to be, you feel the happiness and that's precious than any gift. A pure state of happiness.
Sep 26
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Accept it. Based on experience, you have probably known about your gender identity since you were young: female, male, or maybe not within the gender binary at all. You know what your gender identity is better than anybody else. Don't let anybody tell you that you aren't transgender, or that it's just a phase.
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Realize that you are not alone. No matter where you are, you can find other transgender people. Call an LGBT community center, advocacy organization or support group. If you can't find one, and it feels safe, ask around. Lots of different places might have ideas about where you can get support.
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Read. Check out books from the library. Jamison Green, Kate Bornstein, Leslie Feinberg, Mattilda, and Louis Sullivan have written some great books that are really informative. Find out everything you can.
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Tell someone if you're sure it'll be safe. Don't hide it; it feels like a huge weight on your shoulders and it hurts. Come out to someone that you'd trust with your life. Write a speechor notes beforehand unless your memory is very good. Go ahead and cry, if you need to.
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Be yourself. Don't feel ashamed of being who you are. If transition is what you want to do – do it.
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Seek resources. If there's a transgender support center or group in your area, consider going to it – many have anonymous help lines you can call if you have questions and don't feel comfortable going in person. If you can, meeting somebody who's already spent time questioning their gender and is further along in the transitioning process than you are can be extremely helpful. If there's nothing in your area, there are online support groups who can provide help, advice, and a listening ear.
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Write. Pour out your feelings into a journal, write heart music, poems and, in general, yell with your fingers.
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Visit a doctor. Discuss this with a physician who has has experience in this area. If the doctor does not believe you or take you seriously, go to another one. Don't let an ignorant health care professional question your identity.
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Learn about hormones and other aspects of physical transition, and make sure that this is what you want to do.
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