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Drug preguntas
Sep 29
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Don't tell your friends about things you don't want them to know about. Its none of their business if you still wet the bed, or sleep with a favorite stuffed animal.
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Avoid lying. Lying at any age is very unpopular; you will most likely get caught, and it will make you look even worse than before.
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Remember what being "grown-up" means. There are 36-year-olds that aren't really grown up. Being "grown-up" means a lot of things. At this age, remember to take responsibility for your actions, stand up for what is right, but most of all, remember to have fun. Being eleven or twelve years old only comes once in your life—don't worry about being fully grown up just yet.
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Be confident in who you really are. People are attracted to those who seem confident in themselves. At this age your bodies are growing, they are changed, and you feel like everyone is watching you. They're not. You may think you're not as pretty at the girl who come back from summer vacation looking like a woman, or as handsome and cool as the star athlete, but we all grow and change differently. You are right where you are supposed to be!
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Always be true to who you are At this age it is normal for you to want to find what group you fit in at school, so it's okay to explore what it is that you like and don't like. Once you do find "who you are", remain true to that person.
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Be Fit If you are fit when you are a kid then you will be a happy kid. If you are obese you will probably get picked on at school. Some people will judge you by how fat you are and normally that is not a good judgement for them. If you are obese then you might grow to have lots of other deadly health problems which can make you depressed and miserable.
Sep 29
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Realize that not everyone is dating. The next time you go to one of your classes, look around. Look at every one of the girls in your class, and try to think whether she is dating or not. (If you don't know, assume she isn't.) Chances are, you'll find that not everyone has a boyfriend. However, if you find that every girl you looked at for sure has a boyfriend, donot be discouraged. There are probably plenty of other girls in your school who are not dating.
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Recognize the benefits. Think about it. Your friends who are taken can't go to a party and flirt with that hot new guy. They can't go out as often. They often feel they can't go out dressed as sexy, for fear guys will "oggle" them. Meanwhile, you can go out whenever (you don't have to stay in because "Chad said he'd call me sometime between 4 and 10"), you can dress up as hot as you want, and you can flirt shamelessly.
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Busy yourself. If you find that your old Friday night gal pals are all out with their "guy pals", please resist the urge to sit inside watching The Notebook and eating a tub of Häagen-Dazs! Go online and look up a facial mask recipe. Do your homework. Paint your nails. Watch a brand new thriller movie. Read a book. Catch up on some beauty sleep. Have fun on wikiHow. These are just some of the things you could be doing (which your taken friends will not be doing!).
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Don't become a third wheel. This is crucial. It's extremely awkward to be the only one not cuddled up in a booth at Boston Pizza, or trying to hear the movie over the slurpy (ew!) sounds of couples making out. If some of your friends invite you out, and you realize that you'll be the odd one out, invite another single friend (or call your crush!) or just don't go. If you choose not to go, refer to step number three.
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Explore. You're young. You're single. Don't sit around all day moping: do something about it! Scope out some new cuties, or call that summer fling. If your town has the same old guys, you're crushing on someone who is unattainable like a teacher or someone's math teacher (shocking!), or you simply haven't had any summer flings or just don't like anyone at the moment, don't worry! Maybe your friend's boyfriend's cousin would like to meet up sometime. Maybe that foreign exchange student isn't so weird after all. Maybe you've begun to find the guy next door a lot more attractive than the lifeguard at the pool. It doesn't matter. You've got your whole life ahead of you.
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Don't be desperate. Please, please, please don't run around throwing yourself at every boy you see. You don't have to dress a certain way (put down the tube top and micro-mini), do your hair or makeup a certain way, or act a certain way to get a guy. It may sound totally cliché, but be yourself, and you will find somebody who likes you for who you are. It may not be this week, this month, this year, or even during high school. But you will find someone.
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Don't worry, be happy. In the end, your single friends still love you (a girls night out with the fellow single chicks is a good thing), your taken friends still love you (they can talk to you about guy woes without hearing "oh yeah? Well Brandon said this in our last fight…"), your family still loves you, and somewhere, a future partner is waiting to love you. For now, hold your head up high, smile, love (and be loved), and live.
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Do the stuff you really want to do! One of the benefits of being single is you now have more spare time to do the stuff you really want to do! Spoil yourself, donate to charity, try a new sport, flirt a little, read and write stories, spend time with your friends, call an old friend, make a website, do homework, chat online, etc.
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Write a contract. Promise yourself things that you'll do when you start dating such as: clear your schedule from time to time to do the things you want to do, make time for school work, balance your life, etc.
Sep 29
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If you're arguing with someone just stop and walk away. By arguing you most likely are making matters worse, not proving your point.
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Drink plenty of water. Cut down on the pop. Water will keep you hydrated and can help you feel more relaxed.
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Don't take your problems out on other people or yourself. Making other people hurt regardless of what they did or said isn't going to make you feel any better. Harming yourself can cause more problems then you think. It makes matter a lot worse. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.
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Eat healthier. Studies show teens who eat healthier are in a better mood throughout the day.
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Listen to some music.
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Get lost in a book.
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Draw a picture. It's okay to be a kid again. It feels kind of good!
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Write a song. It helps show how you really feel without effecting anyone in a negative way.
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Punch a pillow. It helps, trust me.
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Eat some candy. Chill out!
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Watch some TV
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Shut off the phone. Texting people while you're mad can result in negative situations.
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Go off by yourself for a little while. Just relax!
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Write down all of your thoughts in a journal. I know it seems cheesy, but it really does help to write it all down.
Sep 29
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Decide which people and places make you feel anxious. People who intimidate, insult, or just make you feel awful are usually the underlying causes, as well as the places where it happens.
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Go to places where you usually become anxious and try to become reacquainted with the place.
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Public spaces. – Most people often find themselves getting a lot more worked up and anxious in situations they feel out of control or enclosed in. This can happen in places such as buses, busy shops, or at gigs. The most important thing to remember is that you are not going to be there in that situation forever. Just keep saying or thinking, " I'll see how I feel in five minutes or at the next stop." before escaping from the situation. Anxiety often makes people feel sick or faint, but always remember you will never actually throw up or faint so try and put that to the back of your mind. Most people, whether it be doctors or parents, often try to use breathing techniques, which in some cases rarely work. However, the best breathing technique to use is breathing in slowly through your nose and out you mouth. Rubbing your stomach from top to bottom slowly will help calm it down. Remember that there is usually a chance in these situations to leave to calm yourself down; if you start feeling the need to get of the bus, leave the store, etc. then it is no big deal; try again in a couple minutes. You could also try taking five minutes and saying your going to the toilet if you feel you only need a couple of minutes to calm down. Try to remember a bottle of water which may help you feel less shaky.
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Tell someone. – If you make plans to go shopping with a friend or out for tea but are worried you will need to leave or will have an anxiety attack, try and tell a friend before hand. Close friends will usually be supportive of you. You should never cancel plans in fear of anxiety. The more you expose yourself to uncomfortable situations, the more comfortable you feel. You wouldn't usually feel anxious about going on your computer or walking around your garden because you're used to these things. If you are doing something that is out of your comfort zone, try telling a parent or guardian about it and see if they could pick you up or give you extra bus fares. Usually just the comfort of having a back up plan can help you feel calmer.
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Have a distraction! If you are a music lover, always remember your iPod or mp3 player. If you are in an anxious situation, put in your earphones and try to distract yourself in the music. If you have games on your phone, a Nintendo, etc. then do the same and distract your self until you feel calmer. Another good idea is carrying around "distraction cards" which may sound stupid but do actually work. Write riddles, puzzles, jokes, memories, or anything you think will distract yourself from it. This isn't recommended for those trying to fix their anxiety altogether since you're avoiding the problem rather than fixing it.
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Relax. When you get back from a particularly stressful day at school or an embarrassing encounter with someone, don't spend the rest of the day cursing yourself for what you said or did (or what you didn't say and do). Make a favorite food of yours, read a book, take a nap- whatever you can do to take your mind off of it.
Sep 29
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Understand that you will initially be in shock. The first reaction you have won't be your final one. You might not know what to say at all. That's ok. It will take your mind some time to process.'
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Your friend is going to be in a lot of pain – but this is difficult for you too. It may seem that the burden you carry pales in comparison to that of your friends, but, it is there. It's not easy when someone you care for deeply is going through severe suffering. Acknowledge your own emotions.
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Don't avoid your friend – try to be there for them. It's hard, but avoiding them will only make them more upset.
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Try to help your friend with the emotional pain. You can't wave a magic wand and make the pain go away, but you can be there for your friend, and tell them that you wish that you could take the pain away.
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Understand that your friend would be experiencing a lot of other emotions. It's not just sadness. She might not feel like a woman, she might feel that she failed her partner, she might be afraid for her future prospects of being a parent. It's more than just grief for the child. Self resentment, fear, anger, self blame and a whole lot of other emotions are mixed in to the grief.
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DON'T say things like "you can have another child" or "maybe it was sick or something" or "maybe it's better to adopt". Your friend isn't looking for tips or advice. They just want the pain to go away. They want the hurt, and fears, and resentment and anger gone. And you can't take that away. Another child, or anything else, wouldn't take the pain that they are feeling away. All that you can do is say you care and that you wish you could help them get through this.
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Expect the emotional pain to take time to get beyond. Your friend could still be upset in two years time. It could be a long process. Don't push things, don't label them as depressed or anything. It's grief, and grief takes time to work through.
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If it's your partner that has miscarried, be wary about your own emotions. Men often don't express themselves well, but right now things are as hard for you as they are for her. It's a difficult time in the relationship, and the way you communicate now is important. Acknowledge your own struggles and do your best to reassure your partner. Amongst all the grief and pain, she probably also feels like she let you down.
Sep 29
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Get this bottled up energy out. Rip up paper, scream into a pillow, yank grass out of its roots, throw around a stuffed animal, etc. Do it all in order if you have too, it gets that itch from crawling under your skin like an insipid snake.
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Distract your body. Get a cup and fill it up with ice cubes, then, one by one, grip each cube in your hands until you feel you`ve had enough. While doing this, think of the longest words in your head and add up their syllables. After about five minutes, you should feel slightly better.
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Lay Down. It is better if you do this on the floor. Put on some music, and place your hands on your stomach. Let your stomach rise and fall gently along with your breathing. Sing if you feel the urge. Wiggle your toes and fingers, and be aware of them moving to your every command, remind yourself that your in control.
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If you can, jot down what you feel, even if it is just a few words.
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Refresh yourself. Take a shower, scrub off all of the pain and stress, or drink a large glass of cold water. Water has healing powers, use it to your best advantage. Feel muggy and ill? Mix salt and water together and wait 30 seconds. Get a rag and soak it in for a minute, then rub the rag on your skin and the walls of your house. Within seconds you should feel the difference.
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Indulge in what you enjoy doing. Play the piano, sketch a bit, write a poem, whatever you like. Watch a cartoon and smile at the innocence of it. Call a friend or look up some jokes on the Internet. Distract yourself.
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Talk about it. Grab your Teddy Bear and pour out your emotions. Cry to your goldfish. Try speaking with a friend.
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Feel better?
Sep 29
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Find a group of people who make you feel safe and accepted.
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Realize that it is not acceptable to be angry all the time. You need to learn how to control your anger or you'll end up worse than what you think you'll end up like while you're angry.
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Think about who you hurt when you're angry. Yourself, those who care about you, and potentially the person you're frustrated with.
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Think about someone who has been short tempered with you at some time in your life – a family member, a schoolmate, or anyone else. It's never pleasant to have somebody upset or angry with you. Try to understand that the other person is probablynot trying to tick you off. They may be trying to tell you that you have done something unacceptable. Or sometimes, they are just plain envious.
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Examine your feelings. What did that person do? What do you feel must be done to "fix" the situation so you can feel better? Walking away, telling who's annoying you that they're upsetting or bothering you, changing the subject or ignoring whatever is upsetting you can all help.
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Do not take your anger out on other people or yourself. If you really feel the need to express your anger physically, punch your pillow or something like that.
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Seek help if necessary. If you cannot get past your anger and you start to plan on what you can do to get even, this is a warning signal that your problem is getting bigger than you.
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Read a book. Pick up a classic from your local library and realize the potential for human thought and intellect.
Sep 29
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Tell the people around you. By telling the people around you that you have decided to be a woman will help you accept it yourself if they can't accept you for how you are them they are not the sort of people you want around you.
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Meet other people such as yourself If you meet people like yourself who want to become woman then you can all help each other accept who you are.
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Make the change If you are 100% sure that you want to become a woman then maybe now it is time to to the next step and have the sex change that you desire but if you are having any doubts what so ever i would advise that you do not do as you may regret it in the future.
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Realise that it's OK to feel this way. Although it isn't a common thing, it doesn't mean you are a freak. It's important for you to accept who you are, before anyone else can.
Sep 29
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Think about why you are miserable now, and what's making you long to be back in the past. There could be many typical ( or random ) reasons why you may feel this way. Did someone bully you? It may be the whole new workload that high school is giving you, or the fact that you are you missing your old friends. Or it may simply be the major change you're experiencing as a teenager. You must discover the reasons for your sadness. Write the reason(s) down on a list.
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If you really don't know what is getting you down then, fill a diary with your current thoughts and feelings every week or so. When looking back upon diary entries, people are usually surprised by what they thought during the time!
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Accept your present situation. There's no point wishing that you could be in playgroup or kinder again, when you know it's impossible. Life will always involve some work from now on, because you are on your way to being an adult.
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Look through the list you created. Decide upon which complaints are realistic, and which ones are unachievable. For example, if you wrote "I'm sad because I want to be 3 again so I don't have school and can watch 'The Wiggles' all day," -get over it! A whim like that is totally unachievable and will never happen again. However if you wrote "I'm sad because I wish to be 7 again, because then I had friends but now I don't.", that's actually reasonable, because something can be done about it.
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Ditch all those impossible whims from the list, it's a total waste of time mourning over it. Attempt to make the possible ones real. So try to make more friends, try to have more fun, play chasey once in while, laugh a lot, watch funny movies, etc.
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Get moving! Try to make your teen years the happiest, they can be, because you only get 7 years. Have fun!
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If you are sad because you are away from home(for kids studying abroad), it can be really difficult. But read, or study, or socialize, and somehow try to make yourself forget about the situation.
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Find out if there is anything you can do. Why are you feeling nostalgic? If you are missing old friends, then contact them by telephone or e-mail and arrange to meet up. If you miss an old school/childhood, it may help to wander around the school once more and maybe say hello to familiar faces if it helps.
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Stick with people who are friendly and can help you. If you are still with some people who were with you during the times you now long for, talk it over with them. They might be feeling the same way. Talking it over certainly helps.
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Give your nostalgia a chance. Nostalgia is not a bad thing: it's just your mind suddenly remembering a certain period in time. When you have the time, listen to a song which makes you nostalgic to relieve yourself and to remove the pressure.
Sep 28
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Ask the teacher for permission to leave the classroom. It is best to ask to go to the bathroom, because he or she will assume you have to.
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Go to the bathroom if you really must. If you don't have to, just walk around the school a few times, particularly near a quiet place such as the auditorium or the choir room. Take a drink if you need one.
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Run a few laps or shoot a few hoops in the gym if it's really bad. Most phys ed teachers won't care and they'll be happy if you got some exercise. Also, you might get extra credit from the gym teacher.
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Get your CD player or iPod and listen to a few songs before you go back to class.
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Return to class relaxed and ready to move on with the day. Also, if you spent more than 5 minutes outside of the classroom, tell her that you really had to use the bathroom, or that you felt a little nauseous (queasy, sick) and had to sit down for a time to recover. Also, tell her you had a stomach ache so it took a while. (She'll know what you're talking about.)
- If things are so bad that all you want to do is go home, ask to call your parents and get someone to come and collect you. If this isn't possible, try to go and lie down in the sick bay for a short while; at least it will give you quiet rest and some time to think over things. Go outside and take a deep breath of fresh air
- Try to talk to your parents, your relatives, or someone you trust about your stress problems and they'll understand and give you advice.
- See the student nurse or counselor if you feel really rotten and alone. At least they can cover your absence for you with an explanation and may give you some time to talk things through.
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