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Oct 14
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Communicate with your eyes. Your eyes are very powerful when it comes to body language. They can indicate interest, and indicate if he's interested as well. Eye contact increases your heartbeat and helps to release the hormones associated with love or lust.[1]
- Fix your gaze on a guy you're interested in if you're not already acquainted with him or talking to him. Show that you're sizing him up––locking eyes is a sure sign of continued interest.
- Do a face scan. This is a tell-tale sign of interest.
- Darting glances and second looks can help indicate your interest in him.
- Avoid staring; he might go into flight mode. Keep it casual and always smile.
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Raise your eyebrows just the tiniest bit whenever he smiles, nods, winks, etc. Do just enough to let him see the change in your expression, without it looking forced or overdone. It's important to look amused, not disgusted. But remember not to over react (they'll think you are too interested).
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Look down and flutter your eyelashes a little. But not too much! This makes you seem innocent yet still interested. As you do this glance down at one or the other shoulder.
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Push your tongue against the skin below your bottom teeth. Open your mouth a little more, but not so much that your mouth looks overly wide (too much and you look like a fish gasping for air). This makes you look flattered and also gives the impression that you're a good kisser, which guys are gonna want.
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When your eyes meet with his, move your shoulder forward slightly and then let it drop. Only move your shoulder, and not your whole arm. As you bring your shoulder forward, move your head slightly closer to it. As you drop your shoulder, move your head back up.
- Try looking over your shoulder; this positioning accentuates your curves and invites more attention.
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Once you've glanced at him quickly, look away and continue on with whatever you were doing. This keeps him wanting more and wondering what you meant by flirting with him and then moving on.
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Get close. Once he's started to show interest, make him keener by getting closer. Move near him and touch his hand or the base of his arm or gently squeeze his arm, hand or shoulder while you're talking. Nothing hard, just light, quick touches before withdrawing your hand again.
- Lean in and whisper. Speaking softly will reel him in. He's interested if he moves closer but beware if he moves back from your lean-in; it means he lacks interest.
- If he flinches or tenses when touched, it probably means he's nervous around you, and that you might be moving in too fast! Try and act more relaxed around him.
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Involve your hair. Slowly run your fingers through your hair, stopping at the nape of your neck. Once your fingers reach your neck, either trail your fingers back and forth across your collarbone, or move the pendant on your necklace back and forth. Caressing your body in this way will cause an interested guy to watch intently.
- Watch for his lips parting or touching his mouth with his fingers; you're right in his interest zone once this happens.
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Last thing you should remember is to be yourself, always know everyone is already taken.
- Make yourself look appealing. Acting or looking dumb in front of him when you're actually really smart will make him confused. He will start to wonder if you're all truth or just lies. It's okay to do this in the beginning JUST to get him to notice or talk to you (in a good way) but once you strike up a conversation, be yourself and act natural!
- Where to look. When you two are in a conversation, stare at his lips and MAKE SURE you are listening to what he is saying too. An instant turn-off is when a guy thinks you are just taking advantage of him. Obviously, girls feel the same too.
Oct 13
- Never bully. Bullying is the number one sign of immaturity. Sometimes it can take time to learn to deal with conflicts effectively, but learning to restrain from bullying other people online will help you seem more mature online and will also help you in the long run. A good way to start out is by figuring out what qualifies as bullying. Think about online bullying in your own terms, not someone else's. Bullying means something different to everyone, but in general it means being mean in any way.
- If you feel tempted to bully someone online, think of tactics to help you restrain. Distance yourself as much as possible from the person bothering you, take a deep breath, and step away from the keyboard to calm down.
- Think before you post. If it will help you release some of your anger, it's okay to type a mean message to someone. Just make sure you don't post it! If you are about to post a message, think about what it says and how those words could be interpreted before you post.
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Use proper spelling and grammar. To adults there is nothing more annoying than improper grammar and/or spelling on the internet. Remember that even when you're doing something as inconsequential as commenting on a YouTube video or something as important as writing a wikiHow article, proper capitalization, spelling and a general good use of the English language will always help you seem more mature. If you aren't a good speller, don't let it be an excuse. Use a free online spell checker.
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Help out as much as possible. If you've been around a site for a while try to find ways that you can help people out. If they're new, take an interest in them and help them learn the ropes of being included on the site. If someone who's been around even longer than you needs an extra pair of hands setting up a page or conquering a level of game be the one who helps them out. Helping people out is not only a good way to show everyone that you're mature but it's also a great way to gain new skills both online and offline.
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Don't brag. When people are insecure they often feel the need to show off how good they are at the little things. When you do this it often just comes off as immature. Let your accomplishments speak for themselves. If you work hard and improve at whatever you're doing you wont need to brag because people will know who you are anyway. When you brag your develop a reputation as annoying and full of yourself, but when you're modest and hard working you will eventually earn the reputation you wanted in the first place.
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Use common sense. In general, your gut reaction to things is the right reaction. Sometimes your personal thoughts can fog your common sense, but if you try to see through to your common sense you'll realize that in general if you think something is wrong, it probably is. If you think something is dangerous, it probably is. And if you think it's wrong or dangerous, don't do it!
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Be friendly. Even when other people aren't kind to you, you should always be kind to them. When you think about the way you react to other people's immaturity you might realize that your reactions are taken the same way. By being more mature, even when it's annoying and hard to accomplish, it will always make you feel good about yourself and portray you as mature.
Oct 10
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Make sure you agree on your date. Where is your date going to be? What time? Are you going with anybody? Be sure that you both know where to go and when, so there isn't any confusion in the end.
- Give each other your cell phone number and email address in case you need to contact each other beforehand.
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Be prepared. Get to your destination early enough, probably about five minutes early, depending on where you are going. If you are a girl, put on lip gloss in case you do some kissing, and if you are a boy, bring some extra cash (a gentleman always pays the bill on the first date).
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Make a good impression. Dress well for your date, and smell nice. Make sure to brush your teeth and smell okay. Smile and talk nicely (don't use curse words). Think about how you would want your partner to feel about you, and be this person.
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Talk. Make lots of eye contact. Do not stare eerily, but do engage in the conversation by looking at them and letting them know you are listening. Be a good listener, but don't be too quiet. Tell them about your family life, your job, or anything else that you have some good stories on.
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Be spontaneous. Avoid being quiet the whole time or not eating anything. be happy, smiley, bubbly, energetic, and happy to be there. The move also known as the Yawn moveis a good start to a first date. Be sly at this point.
Oct 10
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Think about what makes someone come home from a first date and tell their friends, "Wow, my date was awesome! I had such a great time getting to know this person and can’t wait to see them again." While it might have been the revealing clothes they wore or maybe even their perfume, it was most likely something more than that. Things that make a first date truly memorable are often found greater in the mental rather than the physical connections.
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Be a true optimist. Try and think positively when out on a first date. Ignore the fact that you prefer to date men that are 180cm or taller when this guy is only 160cm. A person’s height shouldn’t determine his level of intelligence or sense of humor. Try not to pay attention to the fact that they have brown hair when you really prefer blondes. They could turn out to be one of the nicest people you’ve met in a while.
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Be a good listener. On a date, a great listener knows how to keep the conversation moving with a healthy mix of give and take. The more you focus on asking the other person questions, the more you’ll learn about them. If you allow your date to really open up and tell you about who they are, it’s quite likely that you'll get the same treatment.
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Be flexible. When it comes to a first date, one of the most difficult parts can be simply agreeing on where to go and what to do. So you don’t really love Chinese food, and they've made a reservation at a Chinese restaurant? What can you do? It’s probably not appropriate to argue on a first date. Surely there must be something simple on the menu that you could be happy with! Try and appreciate the fact that the other person took the time to arrange everything and just go along with it, if you can.
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Be yourself. This one is perhaps the most important of all the points. If you’re not being yourself on a first date, you are truly doing a disservice to the other person. They agreed to go out with you because there was something about you that called for their attention. If you seemed so funny on the phone, but on the date you are all stiff and serious, that’s not a real reflection of you. If you think of yourself as a silly and humorous person, don’t hide that from your date. Be yourself and let your true energy shine through. If your date isn’t interested in that side of you, then you’ll know it’s time to move on.
Oct 10
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Look your best, but not like you tried too hard. Make sure your hair is clean, your makeup is light and natural, and your dressed up comfortably, yet well. Also, make sure to be clean and use a good deodorant and perfume, too – smelling good makes you more attractive. You need to feel like yourself, yet you need to feel appealing so you'll be more confident. Also, be sure you know how to appear and dress for the occasion. If not, don't be afraid to ask your date! If he is going to your house or somewhere that you have gone and he has not, be sure to give him some dressing advice as well, but don't be too pushy.
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Be polite. Treat him right, but don't go overboard. Just be yourself, but make sure to be lady-like and educated to him.
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Be nice to talk with but also be a good listener. Talk about yourself, let the conversation go naturally. But be careful, don't talk too much, let him know that you're truly interested in knowing about him – so ask about him, about what he likes doing. Simply be interested in what he says and show it. He appreciate it.
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Don't take yourself too seriously. Meaning, don't try too hard to be all sexy, seductive or to seem mature. Guys like girls who can be playful and fun – so laugh, don't be too high maintenance and treat him as a friend. But don't go overboard, you still need to be polite and lady-like, so don't exaggerate.
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Play a little hard to get. Only cause you guys are on a date, doesn't mean you need to make it easy for him. Be great to be with, but don't let him kiss you so easily or do anything more than that. It is only a date, and if you let him think he can kiss you or go to bed with you so easily, chances are he will not take you seriously enough for a second date… or for a more serious relationship.
Oct 10
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Plan a date. Find out what your crush likes. This can be done by talking to them directly or by asking their closest friends. Pay attention to your conversations with them; presumably, your crush will talk a lot about themselves, and all of that is great material to keep in mind when deciding date spots, gifts, etc.
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Determine the right time to ask. Typically, you should have exchanged a few conversations with your crush before you decide to ask them on a date. Not only does it increase the chance that they will say yes, but it also means that you already know your personalities are compatible and are likely to have a good time.
- People who ask strangers on dates are basing their decision purely on physical attraction. This is riskier, but not always a bad idea.
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With a date idea in mind, ask them out. Always make specific plans to meet at a certain location during a specific time, or you'll just have to ask them again later. There are a few ways to do this, depending on your relationship with your crush:
- Start by just asking to hang out. Unless you are certain that they are romantically interested in you, resist the temptation to instantly flag your invitation as a date. If they have never considered something romantically with you or if they are naturally a timid person, your forward request might catch them off-guard and scare them off. Instead, if you ask them to hang out (which may or may not be a just-friends thing), you can ease them into the transition of a relationship. Moreover, if the hanging out alone goes well, your crush will also see that it's great to spend time with you alone. That will likely cause them to develop feelings for you as well, or at least be more receptive to being more than friends.
- If you and your crush have been hanging out for awhile but things are still in the friend zone, then you want to make things explicit. You can either pose the question directly as an invitation, or bring up the subject of a relationship at one of your hangouts.
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If they say yes, congratulations! Know that this means they are at least interested in getting to know you more intimately, which may eventually lead to a relationship. Continue to make any necessary preparations for your special date.
- If you only asked them to hang out, keep in mind that a "yes" does not necessarily mean they are romantically interested in you. You'll want to see how the first hangout goes, and then proceed to ask them to hang out more later. (Hopefully they will also reciprocate by initiating hangouts, but don't expect this.) Sometimes, this naturally eases into a relationship, but if not, you'll have to just ask them out explicitly after awhile.
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If they say no, don't worry about it. You are a great person who deserves dates, but sometimes the circumstances don't work out for reasons beyond your control. Try not to feel dejected, and respond to the rejection with dignity and respect.
- If you only asked them to hang out, consider whether their excuse was genuine (in which case you can consider asking them to hang out again in a week or so) or not (in which case they are probably not interested in you). Regardless, because your request was not an explicit invitation to potential romance, you don't need to explain yourself or even talk about that subject. Just accept their "no" as you would any friend who couldn't make it to something you had invited them to.
- If you actually asked them on a date or made your feelings clear, then tell them you understand your request may have caught them off-guard. Next, be honest about your feelings. If any of the following apply, then say it:
- "I'll be here if you reconsider and want to talk about us going out again."
- "I understand your feelings, but I still need some closure. I think I'll need my space for some time and that we should have minimal contact temporarily."
- "I would love to still be friends with you."
- "I don't think you've been treating me fairly if you really have no desire to be more than friends. I think we should take a break and re-evaluate the boundaries in our friendship."
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